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The power of love seems to have swept over the heart of many to the extent that some have come to see it as the be-all and end-all solution to their problems. However, many before them that felt that same way about love have to come realize the truth that love is not enough.

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Why love is not enough?

All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you've heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is irrational. When you are falling in love with someone, you feel you're so lucky you can meet her in this world, you feel there's a butterfly in your stomach when you are being with her, she becomes your joy resources in your life. You promise to yourself that you will never let her go. You promise to yourself that you will breakthrough every obstacle that is blocking on the road towards the happy love life. You believe that nothing is able to stop the love between you two.

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We all have been there. When you are into someone chances are you will feel exactly the same and you won't give up your love even though its draining your resources. You believe if you keep working hard you will get return for the love life you desired. You may heard before someone told you that: 'All you need is love'. If you have "love", "passion", "romantic", you name it, then every problem in your love life is not a problem. However, in fact this is not completely correct. For having a happy love life, love is not enough.

There are still many things will change your love life entirely if you mistakenly do it. Attraction is so powerful that you can't calm yourself down to analyze the situation you are now with, you could make a lot of mistakes but enough realize it.

Now you know that fact that love has to exist with attraction. See also attraction vs love. However, to make your love works, there's not only infatuation needed in it. In my free ebook Relationships Made Simple I mentioned that attraction happens and triggers at instinctive level. The feeling of sexual attraction is to ensure the continuous of reproduction of human species.

It happens naturally without needing you to control it. You are attracted to her is not because she did something to you, said something to you, or gave something to you. You are attracted to her is because she fits to your attraction criteria. And your attraction criteria is in the when mindso you are not logically to choose to be attracted to someone like "I like her because she has a pair of long legs, blah blah blah". You may realize that, the woman you like currently is totally not the same like the first love you liked.

It's because relationship is not in control, she doesn't need to do many things to attract you, and you don't need to convince yourself to love someone, all these happen naturally. People feel love is enough, love solves not problem in your love life, is because the "Attraction" take over their mind at that moment. You may feel that you need to confess your feelings to her because you love her, you need to let her know your feelings.

Chances are, it only will backfire the relationship.

Here’s why love alone may not be enough to sustain a relationship

See: How to not confess your love. Some people even will take extreme action to prove his love to her due to lack of ability to control his feelings for a woman. Not because they don't understand what is right or wrong, but when the attraction is too strong and they are not mature enough to get themselves in control, chances are they will make mistakes unconsciously because at the moment it just feels right.

In my free ebook Success Made Certain I explained that everyone has different maturity, and matches of maturity is important to having a good relationship. Basically, maturity is a set of views and beliefs on things. They can be categorized into personal values, phylosphies of life, and world view which are personal level, social level, and worldwide level respectively. If you two have different maturity, it's hard to reach to mutual acceptance sometimes.

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Therefore, all three levels are important in your relationships. Knowledge and beliefs about love is categorize into personal level.

Many guys fail to get women attracted to them is because they have limiting beliefs above love. See: 7 limiting beliefs about love in men. When you lack of knowledge about love, it's easily to be caught up in her drama and selfishness. Most guys will treat women as nice as them can just want to satisfy her desire.

Eventually, your woman will be tired of you because you are not a challenge to her anymore. Women secretly crave for the challenges to get a man she likes to like her back. When you are not a challenge to her anymore, her attraction for you will fade out very soon. See: Warning: Stop being a nice guy.

What it means to feel emotionally safe in a relationship.

Eventually, your relationships are full with anger, hatred and bitterness. Undoubtedly this is harmful to your relationships. When you two have too much difference of maturity, that means you two are not compatible currently. It's love that brings you two to be together, but it's also love separates you two, because when you and her are not compatible, being together is merely continually harm each other.

You want different things

A healthy love is it should makes you two better and happier than before when both of you are single. You will naturally want to improve yourself, and the reason is obvious, because you love her. Your woman should makes you better as an individual. If the love between you and her is not happy and this keeps for a long time, perhaps you need to rethink carefully about your love.

However, first and foremost, we have to love ourselves before we love others. Love is not something that need to compromise our passions and dreams. In my free ebook Attract Women With Personal Boundaries I said that we need to conserve resources in order to share the resources with others.

If you don't love yourself, how could you love others? Simple question. Therefore, please not forgetting or compromising who you are when you are in love. You still have your dream lifeyour goalsyour mission in lifeyour business, etc. Think carefully, is love all you need? As an attractive and alpha man, love merely as an ingredient in life, but not the ultimate goal.

When your life is only existing of her but nothing else, it's when your relationships starts to lost control. When your world is all of her, you tend to be overly nice to her, and your emotions are very sensitive to her every action. In other words, you tend to turn into a wuss when you lost yourself.

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That's why people told you if you want to be successful with women you have to be yourself. The insecurities, neediness and co-dependence will completely kill your attraction to her and there's almost no way to win her back if the attraction is gone.

Remember, love should makes you better, love yourself before you love others. My personal take on love is that a real love doesn't need a return.

Love is not doing a business. We should not measure how much love that we give to her and how much of her love will return.

Many people want to confess their love is because they want to know how much is the chance they have to be with her. Is it worthy to treat her nice?

Is it worthy to give efforts into the relationship? This makes love seem very utilitarianism.

Final words

Attraction is not a choice. You love her with your heart. Your heart feels she's the kind of woman you like. When you measure the ROI of your love, the romance quality decreases, obviously. Every relationships must have problems, and we have to learn how to cope with them.

We as a man we have bigger responsibility compare to women in a loving relationship. But I prefer that men should take bigger responsibility, because men and women are different. Men are more logical than women, whereas women are more emotional.

Moreover, women are more sensitive to trivial things, and they are not as strong as men too. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that you want to claim that every problem in your loving relationships is your responsibility. There's no specific right or wrong in a love, however, when comes to loving relationships men should be "men" to take more responsibility. However, sometimes the problem may not be able to solve.