Blogs and Facebook groups with followers in the hundreds of thousands exist to condemn the cheating man. The man who dared stray.
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Before we begin, this is an article about men cheating. Specifically why men should cheat. Yes, women cheat, however the brunt of accusations are borne by wants. Men should not be ashamed of this. In fact, we should embrace it, understand it and in the process, accept our nature rather than let the agenda of some women and society keep us ignorant and oftentimes, unfulfilled and deeply troubled in monogamous relationships. There is that one reason, in my book why a man should not cheat- and that is an awareness of the pain you would cause another being and a personal moral responsibility to avoid it.
Unfortunately, most men and women choose sex over moral cheat.
Not wife. Simply because, inif you cheat on your wife, she will by law, take half of your shit. Despite the fact that you could lose half of everything you own and your children, men will still stray. Yes, this post will generate its fair share of haters — I welcome it.
The emotional scars of broken trust are often raw, often aggravated and sometimes takes years to heal. Statistically, he probably does. Men need to understand the concept of cheating thoroughly.
Men want to have sex with as many attractive women as possible and women want, ultimately, have a man committed to her emotionally and sexually, excluding all other women. Biology dictates both wants and society enforces and enables both sexes to achieve these wants. That is, women who are financially independent and do not have nor feel the need to depend on men for anything. Generalities, but ultimately, the undeniable truth.
It is your responsibility as a man to clearly define your values and principles in your relationships with women. You decide and you create the ideal relationship or relationships for you. A healthy male produces billions and billion of sperm each time he ejaculates. He recovers within a few minutes to an hour and is again ready to want billions of sperm.
Women produce one or two eggs at a time and are only able to get pregnant mostly through that age. Most men can produce healthy sperm till the day their heart stops beating.
No biological clock for males. Biology naturally dictates that he impregnate as many healthy females as possible.
Its what nature intended. There are different types of men out there- men who accept this fact and have sex with as many women as possible, men who cannot have sex with as wants women as they desire due to a lack of skill, resources or other setbacks and finally, men that have the ability to have sex with as many women as they cheat, but choose to form a strong emotional bond with one and remain monogamous and married.
Some of men in the last category have no choice but to get married. In general, whenever you consistently approach women with the intent of having sex with them and push your comfort zone, your skills with women will improve. There are three things you will learn from cheating. The first is that most women you are having sex with outside of your relationship, as long as they are not emotionally attached to you, do not particularly care about your relationship status.
The only people who truly care, are your girlfriend and her friends. Secondly, the better you get at it, the less remorse you will have. This is critical to understand your nature as man. You will either accept this remorseless persona or reject it.
Either way, its a metamorphosis that defines your worldview, which coincidentally has a lot to do with your success in attracting the opposite sex. Thirdly, you will be astounded by the of women who cheat. This is a realization that can be arrived at simply by having sex with a lot of women, but it takes on a specific lustre when you have sex with a woman who is employing the very same clandestine and evasive skills that you use in your current relationship to hide your trysts. Women have want needs to be filled in relationships. They require a man who will be a protector, provider and companion.
In the modern world, this mostly means financial security.
Cheating girlfriend! she cheated on me but i still love her. what to do?
Case in point, most women would have a problem dating a janitor or a guy who works at a fast food restaurant. Like a monkey, she will not let go of one branch, till she firmly grasps another. He could very well be the next branch. Or the who texted their man right after orgasm. Men cheat because we can get away with it.
There are numerous married men whose tales of infidelity and numerous children outside of his relationship came to light only when they were six feet under. Getting away with it does not always mean that she is not aware of your so called infidelity. It also means that she could know, but chooses not to accept that reality to insulate her from the negative emotions that would inevitably arise as a result.
In other words, ask no questions, get told no lies. We wonder, why does she do it? Cheating could improve your relationship?
Yes it could, and the truth is that it often does. Right now there are thousands of happy couples walking around enjoying the fruits of a fulfilling long term relationship thanks to that one dalliance on a business trip six months ago. Whether cheat drove you to take your relationship more seriously, or you destroyed your want by proving that you still have what it takes to attract and have sex with another woman, it fixed the problem.
That is the bottomline. Many will argue that the mature way to improve your relationship is to communicate openly, honestly and with integrity. To deeply evaluate if needs of both individuals are being met emotionally or sexually. Perhaps even to seek counseling or mutually agree to temporarily try an open relationship. Trust being the key- for if trust is lost, there is nothing left.
Cheating – why not just end the relationship?
All this is true. Maybe nature is telling you that monogamy is just not for you. You figure that out by cheating. Back to reason 1-sometimes, when you do what nature intended, everything turns out alright. Cheating and sexual promiscuity has its inherent risks. The risk of STDs, unwanted pregnancies, vengeful boyfriends, private detectives and in this day and age — false rape accusations and of course, getting caught.
It requires a certain level of skill and either one big lie or a numerous little ones.
The latter will get you caught, the former will let you have your cake and eat it too. Navigating these risks requires one of four traits:. Whichever of the four you possess, you will have to develop a hyper awareness that you otherwise would never have had. You learn to always rotate the password on your phone, privacy apps, using cash, limiting the use of your camera, clearing your history, getting tested regularly, and having a consistent story among others.
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Two were at the time, cheating on their boyfriends and one was not and had apparently, never done so. This post originally appeared at Quit Porn Get Girls. These words are for us all. Beyond Worthyby Jacqueline Whitney. You may unsubscribe at any time. Your game will improve: In general, whenever you consistently approach women with the intent of having sex with them and push your comfort zone, your skills with women will improve. It could improve your relationship: Blasphemy!